IT'S TIME FOR A RANT: People are advocating spanking on Facebook. This is wrong, and it's stunning that so many believe it's okay.
The really huge mistake is the one everybody accepts: "The only thing hurt is their feelings." When you damage feelings, you cause mental illness. It damages human beings for life. That’s a long time. It would take a book to explain how wrong this is and why.
When you spank a child you teach them that we are allowed to violate bodies. Think about that. Women, do you like to have your bodies violated? Of course not.
Spanking is good indicator of bad parenting. If you are paying attention to your children - teaching and training them as they grow – you will never have to spank them. The objective of parenting is to form responsible, productive adults. If a child is being spanked, they are being trained to take shortcuts in life, and to take action only when angry. They learn that corporal punishment is okay – even in its extreme version: war. And it’s imprinted on the body.
There are better ways to get the child’s attention, such as, gently taking their head in your hands and looking directly into their eyes with a smile on your face until they settle down and listen. Training takes repetition and persistence, and setting the example. (When you spank your kids, you’re showing them how to spank theirs.) Read Jane Nelson's Positive Discipline for humanity’s sake.
So, where do kids learn violence? We have normalized violence because of a thousand years of wars.
Also, everyone erroneously believes that you MAKE things happen by taking forceful action. You think if you apply pressure to something, it goes away. But how do you react when somebody tries to pressure you? This belief creates your war on drugs, war on crime, war against terrorism. How are those wars going?
What you believe is what you get. Think about that car you'd love to have, and you see it everywhere. The same with violence. On the flip side, think about what a lovely day it is an you see the flowers, hear birds tweeting, and admire the sunset.
Now let me go over your head: A belief is an emotional energy vibration in the form of a structured thought. If you believe a bad thing, it attracts more things with the same vibrational structure (more bad stuff). But if you believe good things, it still attracts more things with the same vibrational structure, but in this case good stuff.
What are you attracting with your spanking? What are you attracting with a smile? Duh! OKAY, RANT OVER ... FOR NOW.