To create personal change, there is a proven method.
1. It is important to detach from repeating thoughts. The longer you dwell on some issue, the longer it stays in your life. So, release those things. There is a method to do this.
2. Replace unwanted thoughts and feelings with desired thoughts and feelings. You control what you think and feel.
a. Identify the repeating issue.
b. Identify the desired issue. (I know, Chad will say to simply release the desire. But from my perspective, that's only halfway.)
c. In meditative state (full release and awareness), imagine you are in the desired condition. Here's the key: Allow yourself to know that alternate possibility with all five of your senses and to feel fully the joy and wholeness of that moment. Think it and feel it.
d. Anytime the offending issue comes up, recognize what it is, and immediately change your thought and feeling to your desired condition. In this way, you practice the thought and feeling of the desired condition in meditation and in life. So, your mind and heart begin to automatically look for the improved condition instead of the old repeating issue.
3. The 5-second rule: In your daily life, the mind and heart will find the condition you are holding. When it appears, you have five seconds to take action on it. When it appears, if you fail to begin acting on it immediately, it will pass on and disappear. You'll have to wait for another opportunity. Keep practicing.
- Christopher Aune, November 2018