Thursday, March 25, 2021

We know how to reduce gun deaths by at least 50% in one year

For “gun rights advocates,” let me say up front: I'm not anti-gun. Anybody who tells you that “they coming to take your guns away,” is lying to you. That is propaganda spread by the National Rifle Association, which was taken over by a radical right-wing political movement in 1977. Their industry-backed propaganda hasn’t changed.

Neither has their error. The right to bear arms is guaranteed under the Second Amendment, and it would take a Constitutional Amendment to even begin to deny private gun ownership. Only one member of Congress wants to rewrite the Second Amendment.

I'm for sensible gun regulation as allowed by the Second Amendment and affirmed multiple times by the Supreme Court over two centuries, including conservative Judge Antonin Scalia in the 2008 Heller decision. The "gun rights" argument is not what you think. 

Learn the history of "gun rights" here.

Right now we have leaky, ineffective gun regulations. Strike One. Enforcement of gun regulations has never been fully funded. Strike Two. People keep committing mass murders. Strike Three. This is wrong. It reflects a lack of character on our part. We need to step up and do something. 

All sensible people agree that we need to close the gaps in gun regulations and enforce the law better, including adequate funding for law enforcement. I’m for actually and fully funding enforcement, which has never been done. Instead, we fund assault vehicles for the police. 

Yes, this would be inconvenient to gun owners: That's called "being responsible." Unless you have a pre-teen mind, you crave responsibility.  

So, if you’re not a right-wing extremist who protects the rights of violent criminals and the mentally ill to own and operate guns, here is what we can do to restore gun sanity (like we had until 1977, only an updated version).

Main Goal #1: Create a national database accessible by law enforcement at every level. Cross-reference three data sets (1) A list of all guns and owners. (2) A registry of people with a record of violent criminal activity, including domestic violence and engaging in street/bar fights. (3) A list of people with mental health issues who are at risk of doing harm to self or others.

By cross-referencing these data sets, we can pinpoint when violent or mentally ill people are in proximity to guns. Laws and law enforcement should ensure no access to guns by these people. This used to be the law in the United States until the NRA went radical.

Yes, make gun owners responsible to secure their guns and report them missing. Failure to do so should be criminal.

Every gun owner should be required to be trained and licensed just like we do with car drivers. Training would include an hour on identifying people with violent tendencies or mental health issues. It's called "being responsible." This is a national safety issue.  

Those who own a weapon that can be used in combat should be registered with the state or local militia so they can be trained in combat and recalled in time of need. This camaraderie alone would stem virtually all weapon abuse.

Main Goal #2: Since suicide constitutes the majority of gun deaths (with homicide a strong second), pass legislation to counteract the Root Cause of mental illness, drug use and most crime. The Root Cause is when an individual experiences a sense of social isolation or familial rejection, of not being heard and cared for. Yes, it's a weakness; but instead of kicking a person while they're down, we should give them a hand up. Implement proactive outreach programs in local communities to identify people who are struggling with mental health and violence issues, and to ensure clear connection points for them, including at schools, churches, jobs, and clubs. Shouldn't this be happening already? 

Main Goal #3: Ensure these Goals are properly funded. (1) Until 2015, about half of gun registrations were on paper stored in boxes in the halls of the ATF. Computers and staff to manage them have never been properly funded. Industry lobbyists have blocked funding. (2) In Indiana alone we spend $1 Billion a year on drug treatment programs in prisons, just to turn convicts back out onto the streets into the same situations they came from with minimal community programs or support (according to my local county sheriff. Spend that same money on gun violence prevention, we could minimize violence and stem most crime.

Everybody knows: An ounce of prevention …  But these days we have people who have their opinions handed to them, who oppose common sense. It's way past time for the sensible majority to stand up and speak out. 

Saturday, March 13, 2021

Switch from Consumption to Production

The biggest change we need to make is from consumption to production. 

Instead of eating up Facebook posts, we need to journal/blog our own ideas through to their ridiculous conclusion. "What if ... And then what if ...?" 

And stop eating up what is sweet and packaged pretty, and use a knife to chop up freshly harvested food that you and your neighbors grow. 

Stop going to church to get that spiritual feeling, and practice aligning with God in meditation three times a day. 

In short, stop accepting whatever comes to you, and go out and get what you really need and want.

Monday, March 8, 2021

How to be strong when sin is making you weak

Regarding the discussion of sin we had during men’s group …

“I want to quit, but I can’t.”

I want to lose weight, but first I have all this food in the house that I have to eat. I can’t just throw it out.

               Instead, I start from abstinence. I fast until I’m actually hungry, then I eat. I make sure my stomach isn’t uncomfortable because of gas, or because I’m too full, or because I ate something spicy, or because I had an argument with someone, or some other stress. I make sure my “hunger” isn’t thirst by drinking plenty of water. I make sure I’m not just eating out of habit by distracting myself and doing something constructive. Thus, I discern if I’m truly hungry. If I’m truly hungry, I let my wife know. As a last resort, I might even “cook” for myself.

I wanted to go to grandma’s house, so I walked down to the end of the block; but I wasn’t there yet, so I turned around and came back.

Blowing smoke like a pro
               Instead, I calculate what it’s going to take to get there. Grandma lives 15 miles away. That’s quite a hike. Maybe I should drive the car. Do I really want to go to Grandma’s house, or am I just trying to justify why I can’t get there.  Am I using the right vehicle? Do I know how to use it? Do I know the way? Maybe I should get somebody to help me find the way. If I make a wrong turn, they can say, “Wait! Isn’t the whore house down this road? Aren’t we going to Grandma’s?”

So, your good intentions aren’t enough. You have to train yourself to do what is required. To master yourself, practice often. Build your muscles. It is immensely helpful to have a partner to help you stay on The Way … on Target.

“When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it.  Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first. That is how it will be with this wicked generation.” Matthew 12 

               If you’re trying to “clean your house,” be sure to put some good angels in it. Otherwise, the same old relatives will move right back in with you. 

“No one lights a lamp and puts it in a place where it will be hidden, or under a bowl. Instead, they put it on its stand, so that those who come in may see the light. Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eyes are healthy, your whole body also is full of light. But when they are unhealthy, your body also is full of darkness. See to it, then, that the light within you is not darkness. Therefore, if your whole body is full of light, and no part of it dark, it will be just as full of light as when a lamp shines its light on you.” Luke 11 

               You are in charge of you. Your mind doesn’t want to do what you say. It wants to stay comfortable and avoid all work and struggle. It wants the thrills, and will trick you if you don’t exercise your power. Tell your mind, “I decide, we do.” Your mind obeys you if you take action. All your mistakes have been forgiven, and it’s up to you to stop being less that who you really are. If you truly are a child of God, you have infinite power available to you. If you don’t know how to access that power, ask somebody who knows.

In the New Testament, the word “repent” does not mean “to stop sinning;” it means “to change.” Change your mind. Change the way you think. Switch paradigms. Stop thinking of your life in terms of “sin,” and start thinking of life in terms of “love.” Stop thinking in terms of what you need to do to survive; and start thinking in terms of what God can do through you. Don’t let your mind lead you: You lead your mind. Don’t let your body lead you; you lead your body. Change your habitual sins by replacing them immediately with a pre-planned, constructive activity. You trained yourself in the habit of sin; now replace that by training yourself in the habit of good works. Stop settling for cheap thrills, and seeking after minor blessings. Be the blessing! God is not weak, and neither are his kids.


Tuesday, March 2, 2021

Hardcore: Teaching children to clean up their own messes

A mom asked how to get her kids to clean up their own messes when "they don't give a fuck." (Get the desperation?) Here's the answer summarized, short and ... well, hardcore.  

  1. Start very young. When they're 7-years-old, you'll be happy. When they're teens, you'll be delighted. 
  • Remember: Parenting means “Training kids to become responsible adults and problem solvers.”
  • Parenting is not fixing their problems for them (like cleaning up after them).
  • Parenting is very hard work. (Remember to take a respite when you need it.)  
  • Don’t train them that you clean up after them. (If you’re reading this, it’s probably already too late. You think it’s just easier to do it yourself. You’re training your kids to be slobs and dependent on others. If you’re serious, Skip to 10.)
  • Train them that they are included in all cleaning (except dangerous things: but they can and must watch!)
  • All attempts are worthy. Praise them for every attempt, not for success.
  • Expect incremental, continuous improvements. Settle for no less.

2. Make it fun: Never work or struggle. Work and struggle happen for four reasons:

  • You’re in a rush.
  • You are not setting the example.
  • You are not explaining and teaching.
  • You expect perfection.
  • It’s easier to do it yourself.

3. Get rid of ALL junk.

  • Have the kids put all “their stuff” on their bed. Whatever is left laying around is junk. Get rid of it NOW.
  • Then, have each child hold each item on their bed to their heart. If it doesn’t feel like joy, get rid of it. You set the example. Do this as OJT (4. Below)
  • If the item doesn’t feel joyful, it’s junk. Teach them to distinguish between “clinging to something to fill an empty heart” and “this makes me feel joy.”
  • The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up:

4. OJT: On-the-Job Training (Progressive ability) Teach them HOW to create order.

  • Prepare: Break all chores into simple steps: Write them down as a Master Task List.
  • Each step must be so simple that success is guaranteed.
  • Make a chart of the steps you are CURRENTLY training them in.
  • Give lotsa praise for best efforts. (Success comes later.)
  • Use rewards that they choose.
  • Give rewards steadily at first, less often later, and finally intermittently.
  • Make it fun, even a game.
  • Demonstrate several times: Show them how to do each step.
  • Assist: Do each step with them: Clean up together
  • Repeat a-e over and over until they form the habit.
  • Supervise them doing it: “I’m over here doing this while you’re doing that.”
  • Own it. Assign it to them: “You know how to do this.”
  • Return to previous steps as needed to ensure success.
  • Give persistent positive feedback: Joy.
  • Red Flag: If anybody feels like it’s work or a struggle, see Number Two above.

5. Teach them to tidy as they go = less mess. “Everything has a place, everything in its place. Where does that belong?” “You know what we do with junk laying around.”

6. Make tidiness a trait of your family name: “We are Smiths, and Smiths put things where they belong.” (Also, “Smiths are honest.” “We are Smiths, and Smiths are helpful/problem solvers/caring/etc.” You can make signs and hang them around your house.)  

7. Be persistent. It’s okay to give up and take respite, but persistently return to the task of training kids to be responsible adults. (When they get to be teenagers, you’ll be sooo glad you did.)

8. If they’re already wild, you have to get tough: Take EVERYTHING out of their rooms, no electronics, toys or games, no privileges until they’re earned.

  • Big yard bags are great for throwing stuff in.
  • Do it while they’re gone one day.
  • Hide where they can’t get to it, where they’ll never find it. (Rent a storage space.)
  • Spell out in writing how they can earn their stuff back.
  • If you compromise at all, you’ve lost not just the battle, but the war.
  • At this point, it’s all or nothing. YOU – THE ADULT – HAVE TO WIN THIS, or your kids will be dependent slobs for life.
  • You want to train kids to become responsible adults, not expecting others to take care of them, not believing that a mess is acceptable. Teach them tidiness (above).
  • After you’ve created the blank slate, THEN go back and start again at Number One above.
  • Don’t be afraid to use every trick in the book:
    • Cry, tell them how sad you are because they don’t love you (as demonstrated by not helping you). It’s okay if they think they failed at this point. 
    • Get angry … but don’t throw a crazy fit. Make sure they know things are NOT alright. It’s okay if they think they are in trouble at this point.
    • When they do what you expect, FLIP IT. Remember: Hate the mess, not the child. Love the tidy! When they do what is expected, you have to tell them how good they are. They are expressing their inner goodness by doing a good action.
    • The mess doesn’t mean that they are bad kids: It means that their inner goodness is NOT getting expressed, and it looks like a mess. When their inner goodness is expressed, it looks like tidiness. Tell them that.
    • Back to the top now.

Please let me know if you have something to add to this summary. Or contact me if you want to talk about it. Blessings!

Tuesday, August 18, 2020

How can I learn preemptive forgiveness?

There are a few things I keep in mind to achieve the poise of pre-emptive forgiveness in the turmoil of life...

1. Humility - "[W]hat you know for sure that just ain't so," makes up about 60% of what we think we know. That's science.

2. Honesty - Before you say or do anything that impacts another, do diligence. Research what you think you know. Interview the people who were there. When we take time to study it out, we can achieve about 85% accuracy in our understanding and judgment (at best). ... In the process of doing this, our emotions have a chance to calm down and our instant judgments disappear.

3. Grace - Realize that everybody is doing the best they know how. In 1940s New Mexico, there were two escaped convicts in a shack surrounded by police. As they reloaded their pistols, the murderer said, "Why are people always picking on me?" The answer is, he was brought up in a way that, he just never learned how to get along in this world. But he was doing the best he knew how. Everybody is doing the best they know how. Nobody really knows how. Those who seem to know what they're doing, are faking it. "Forgive them, Father, for they know not what they do."

4. I forgive myself preemptively. Any outburst, emotional or rational reaction is a normal human thing, so I forgive myself. How can I not forgive others? "Love your neighbor as yourself."

Of course, it's always an imperfect process ... but really, isn't that the point?

Thursday, August 13, 2020

A Christian friend feels cut off from family

A friend asked, “I have been divided off from the rest of you due to my beliefs. What do you think of this?”

I think you can believe whatever you want to believe. I think that everyone is doing the best they know how. That’s good enough for me.

The difference between me and most Christians today is that they use scripture to determine what love means, but I use love to determine what scripture means.

Jesus taught that we should love God, and our neighbor as our self; and that all the Law and the Prophets depend on that. The Law and the Prophets (and Psalms) were all of the authorized scriptures of Jesus’ day. By extension, the same thing applies to all the authorized scriptures of today – including the Bible. Understanding it depends on love. Love is the key to understanding.

The English version of Deuteronomy 6:4 usually leaves out a word included in the original Hebrew: “Hear you, Israel, Yahweh Elohim-of-us, Yaweh [is] one, AND-you-love Yaweh ….” In the original message from God, the phrase “God is one” is integrally connected with the command “love God.”

In John 17:3, Jesus makes a formula statement: “Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God ….” For the rest of the chapter, he expands on that, praying that we be one with him. He culminates in the ecstatic statement in verse 23, that “they may be brought to complete unity (or perfect oneness).”

So, I think that Jesus teaches love and unity. Out of that core message, he warns of divisions or denominations.

It seems obvious that people want to feel the world is safe and their lives are stable. Anything that doesn’t fit with their nice, neat worldview meets with strong objections and defensiveness, even violence. “Indeed, a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.” Matt 10:36  

In fact, when someone starts speaking about something that isn’t nice and neat, most people will ignore him, turn their backs on him, avoid him, interrupt him, and even rescue others from a sensitive topic by talking loudly over the top of the speaker. We can’t have a civil argument, because people are so fragile and defensive, even actively seeking to misunderstand. Vigilant defensiveness. Divisiveness. Resisting knowing more and even anything different.

But divisiveness is not Jesus’ message. Division is the reaction against Jesus’ message.

So, what do I think? I think people use scripture to justify what they are doing. 

Instead, I accept preemptive forgiveness. I use love to guide what I am doing. I seek first to understand. Then I seek to be understood. And, if someone wants to be my “enemy,” they can do it without my participation. - Christopher

Tuesday, June 2, 2020

Racism: Root cause and a key solution

I’ll cut to the chase: Here is the root cause and the answer you are looking for…

“It falls on all of us, … to work together to create a ‘new normal’ in which the legacy of bigotry and unequal treatment no longer infects our institutions and our hearts.” – Barack Obama


Bias in any form is never okay and should be avoided.

How can you recognize if you're being biased? And how can you practice avoiding bias?

How to recognize your own bias: Any time you FEEL STRONGLY in agreement or in disagreement about anything, that is a bright red flag that you are holding tightly to some preconceived notion that is preventing you from truly understanding. That is bias.

How to avoid bias: When you notice that red flag of bias (strong feelings), first, remember that there's a whole science behind this. Our initial understanding of any other person is only about 34% accurate. We fill in the other 66% with our preconceived ideas. This is Phase I Understanding (superficial, automatic, grossly inaccurate). (Research cited in No One Understands You and What to Do About It, by Heidi Grant Halvorson PhD, Harvard Business Review Press)

When you notice the red flag, stop and start LISTENing. Patiently seek out the rest of the story. Start trying to figure out why that person is acting or talking that way. SEEK UNDERSTANDING. This is Phase II Understanding (studied, takes work, still imperfect). You will never exceed 85% understanding, even after 40 years of knowing someone. Truth!

So, be humble: Realize that you do not know everything; and, in fact, you know very little. Other people are always weird, but they can describe a good reason for their words and behaviors if given the chance. Give them that chance.

Everyone must be trained in this skill once a year. By itself, this will change the world.

Can it be that easy?! Yes. And no: It takes practice. 

And BTW … We know how to bring Heaven to Earth in this generation. – Christopher

Friday, March 20, 2020

Shambala Warrior Prophecy

When the world is about to destroy itself and all life is threatened, the Shambala Warrior appears and destroys the weapons of war and violence. And the kingdom of Shambala appears. It is not a place, but it is a way of being.

They train in the use of two weapons:
  1. Compassion
  2. Insight into the radical interdependence of all phenomena
Don’t be afraid of the powers and their weapons, for they too are part of all that is.

We do not know the outcome. It may appear too great a change for it to appear, but ignore that.

Just be in compassion and insight. Share the compassion and insight.

Saturday, March 14, 2020

Scientists discover how the universe was created, millennia after Moses said the same thing

“Ripples in space-time could explain the mystery of why the universe exists,” according to Jeff Dror, a researcher at the University of California, Berkeley, and physics researcher at Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory.

Funny thing … Moses said that thousands of years ago.

- Genesis 1:2 literally says, at the beginning of creation, "The spirit of Elohim vibrating over the surface of the waters." -…/OTpdf/gen1.pdf 

Why no one understands and what to do about it

These days, there are huge powers creating chaos. They are so huge that people cannot grasp how big they are, even when it’s carefully explained to them. It’s impossible to imagine how much power just a few people have.

How much is a billion dollars? A trillion? Just as an example, I’ve seen Jeff Bezos’ $116 billion illustrated this way: Take one grain of rice as a representation of $100,000, an amount any of us would love to earn in a year. At that scale, ten grains of rice would be a million dollars. One thousand grains = one-hundred million dollars. One-hundred thousand grains of rice would be ten billion dollars. Bezos has 11.6 times that much: 1,160,000 grains of rice at $100,000 each. There are about 29,000 grains of rice in a pound; so, Jeff Bezos has about 40 pounds of rice, each grain representing $100,000. I don’t blame Bezos.

Bezos is not the problem. The problem is that, because people don’t understand, none of my knowledge or experience matters. Nobody’s expertise matters. No credentials, or decades of research, or carefully cultivated credibility matters. Even the well-established facts don’t matter. All facts and researchers can all be dismissed in an instant with a sneer and a turn of the back. Because people don’t take time to think, and they especially don’t want to be reminded that they don’t think.
It’s much easier to wave a hand and blot out all facts. Shake the head and claim credible media sources report fake news.

People make a quick, shallow assessment of a situation, a person or a national issue – and then fill in the blanks to support their hipshot assessment. This is called Phase I judgment. Phase I judgment achieves only 33% accuracy, at best. But 95% of every story we tell ourselves is based on Phase I judgment.

Phase II judgment happens when someone starts questioning their first impression and starts digging for more accurate information in a search for the truth. But even when we take time for a second look and carefully dig out the facts, science has discovered that we can only achieve – at best – about 67% accuracy in our understanding of other people and situations, even after we’ve lived with a person for 40 years. (For a better understanding, of Phase I & II judgments, see No One Understands You and What to Do About It, by Heidi Grant Halvorson, Associate Professor of Motivation Science Center, Columbia Business School.)

But our understanding of each other is worse than that. Because we operate on Phase I judgment in 95% of our daily doings, and it is only 33% accurate, we just automatically fill in the rest of the story with information we picked up in a similar situation. We judge people and situations based on 67% fabricated information. We make up a story to explain things and to make ourselves comfortable that there is order in the universe … in the world … in the country.

Don’t get me wrong. Telling stories is an ancient survival skill. There is so much going on in the real world that we construct a vastly simplified mental model of the world. This mental model becomes second nature: An automatic, unconscious response to 95% of the day’s doings. The only time we wake up is when something doesn’t match our mental model. Then, we wake up for about five seconds. (Scientists measured it.) Most of the time, when we wake up, we only check to see if there is an immediate threat. Then, we go back to default mode, dismiss the new situation, and go back to unconscious autopilot. This all happens in about five seconds. If you’re not paying attention, you’ll miss it. And we miss it frequently.

Scientists call the process we use to build stories “motivated reasoning.” People get a feeling, make up a story to support that feeling, and then watch for facts to support their story. It’s a very human tendency that we apply to all kinds of facts about the environment, god, economic history, and current events. We make up stories about each other, and the story is only one-third accurate … at best. But we live by our stories. (See the book, The Truth About Denial, by Adrian Bardon, Professor at Wake Forest University.)

All of this is to say that, it behooves us to be constantly aware of our own fragility. To realize that we don’t really understand … ever. That others don’t understand us … ever. And with that realization, we need to try to enter Phase II judgment – to think twice, so we can begin to approach halfway understanding. Then we can be more patient, more tolerant, more curious about what’s really going on, and take time to listen carefully, ask questions, and maybe learn something. It could change the world.